Feisty Bloggin’ Housewife

May 8, 2008

I’m Not ALONE, I’m Not ALONE!

Filed under: children, family, humor, life, parenting — feistyhw @ 4:07 pm
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Well have mercy!! Praise God, Alla, Buddha, Lao Tsa, Zeus, Jimmy Carter, WhoEVER!

Some other mothers, treading water with ankle weights strapped to their tired feet, have chimed in to my lowly little blog spot and made my day! Mothers of adopted children who are faced with problem children and all the emotional duress that comes with them. It’s a chore sometimes, loving Geneva. I mean, imagine the most irritating person you’ve ever known. Stop now and think.

Who is it? An “ex”, a former roommate, a co-worker, your mother-in-law, your little brother? Take that most irritating human being and ZAP, make them your child! It’s rather nightmarish, really. Our younger daughter Estelle - she’s the axis to our universe. She’s the easiest person to be around. I could list flowery adjectives to describe her all dang day long, but I’ll spare you that. Let’s just say that if everything else in the world ceased to exist, yet I still had my Stella, all would be well and good.

Once upon a rock band, I used to be a chick singer. For about 20 years I made music, traveled, did what I wanted, when I wanted. I finally got mighty sick of that, sick of ME. I was tired of myself. So I got married and then had to answer to “him”. O.K. Guess I can swing with that. Then we traveled to China and brought home Estelle, tiny and underdeveloped, but the most darling baby and so dreamily easy. For several years we enjoyed the most picture perfect of lives. Boy, I was really swingin’ with that. And then….dum dum dum dum….*yes, dumb, dumb, dumb, dumb…..I insisted we fetch a sister. Now here’s the scoop on this: We adopted children instead of having bio kids because - frankly, I’m not that proud of my gene pool. Seriously, who needs more of this? Damn it! This is where I wanted to insert the absolute worst photo of myself ever taken and this computer-wack-a-doo system won’t do it!! I’m still so new at this blog world stuff, I get stymied very easily.

Anyway, so that’s how we ended up with The Gypsy Geneva and how I ended up with certainly not very much ME time or ME anything. God is laughing. He gave me the easiest baby in the world who’s turned into the most charming creature imaginable, and to counter that and for His own, sick amusement - he brought me Geneva. Funny guy, that God. He didn’t want me to escape parenthood that easily I guess. Congratulations Big Guy, mission accomplished! For there is no escape from THIS!! A girl who still has ‘bathroom issues’, can’t tell time, has no linear thought, lies like a cheap rug, only loves others as an application, not a feeling - does not understand why people cry and makes me repeat basic parenting mandates over and over and over like she’s never heard them before. And as far as that goes, maybe in her swiss cheese brain each moment is shiny and new.

Glorious day, a gal pal just phoned and forced me back to the real world and asked me to lunch. Panera, here we come! It’s not a tamale, but it’ll do pig, it’ll do….

WOW! I’ve got several new blogs to check out and I’m very happy about it! MOMS, ROCK ON!!! And thanks for checking in with me - I’ll try to get your links into my post…I’m so technically challenged it’s frightening. Hand me a microphone, it’s all good. Hand me a modem…we’re in deep doo doo.

8 Comments »

  1. I found your blog through Kari’s too. I noticed you used to live in my neck of the woods before you moved. I am a single mom of 2 girls from China and we live in KC. I adopted Lilly in July 01 and Lia in March 03 with CHI. I was thinking about adding a little brother, but have to admit, I am intimidated by the possibility of FASD. I was pretty comfortable with China, but now, they’re not comfortable with me (being single etc). So now, I’m trying to be grateful for the two wild, but brain-typical, little girls I have.

    Enjoying your blog, keep it up and tell your pesky little brother that moms have the BEST blogs out there.

    Comment by Patti — May 8, 2008 @ 5:18 pm

  2. You are not alone and Amen Sister!
    Lisa

    Comment by Lisa — May 8, 2008 @ 5:48 pm

  3. Thanks Patti! Yes, the chosen one - who has NOT chimed in on my blog yet - should try being “mom” for a day! He’d cave, baby. If you’ve got two, darling, brain-typical Chinese doll’s, I would hesitate to mess with that mix if I were you. Sometimes, less is more. ;) Just my stressed out 2 cents!! And I’m still looking for that time machine I need so badly…if I only knew THEN what I know now. D. Feisty Housewife P.S. I miss KC!! (Overland Park)

    Comment by feistyhw — May 8, 2008 @ 5:54 pm

  4. There is a whole world of us FASD parenting nutsos out there ;) You are certainly not alone. Here’s a question. I’m a closet rocker disquised as a mom. Do you sing your girls “lullabies” at night? And if so, which ones? My kids get: “Baton Rouge”, “The Letter”, “InnaGaddaDaVida”, and “Knock On Wood”, amongst others…Just curious.

    Comment by Torina — May 9, 2008 @ 1:34 am

  5. Hey Torina - My kids get “Yellow Submarine”, but other than that it’s more typical fodder. “Baby Mine”, “You Are My Sunshine”, I’ve got a particular Chinese lullaby I sing to Estelle, etc. The funny part is during our car trips (where I have NEVER allowed Kiddy music to be played.) A song will come on the radio and they’ll ask me, “Is this you, Mom?” That always cracks me up. If you’re a closet rocker, find a way OUT of the closet! Take guitar lessons and blow your munchkins away, something like that! Music is a tremendous outlet for me, in fact if not for music, I’d have withered away eons ago. I sit at the piano and hammer away, singing my guts out and it’s like the burdens cannot get in. Music holds them at bay. It’s my happy place.

    Comment by feistyhw — May 9, 2008 @ 4:44 am

  6. I want to give a shout to all of the families who opened their hearts and adopted children, whether infants or older children. I worked at an adoption agency years (and mean years) ago, and I saw first hand the raw emotions that go into adoption. How wonderful it is for people to open their hearts and love a child regardless of race, disability or any other myriad of issues! I realize the daily struggles are great and numerous. Know that there are people who have a great deal of respect and admiration for all you do. It may seem hopeless or pointless; know that what you do rescues another child from an unhealthy environment. Hopefully this makes sense…

    Comment by Michelle — May 9, 2008 @ 12:57 pm

  7. I play the piano and taught my kids how to play air guitar and air drums as backup. Hmmm, Yellow Submarine…I should bust out my Beatles music. Wouldn’t their teachers love it if they came to school singing Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds? Hee hee.

    Comment by Torina — May 9, 2008 @ 9:33 pm

  8. I am not a singer, but at times pretend to be one. I love the classic rock songs and it embarrasses my kids to see me rock out with them. I love it! Knock it off or I’ll start singing my songs! Andrew listens to all kinds of music. He listens to Christmas carols year ’round and requests “moms songs” all the time. I like that he’ll ask me for my songs- and that he appreciates when I get my “groove on” ha ha

    Comment by Linda — May 10, 2008 @ 12:54 pm

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